Last week, I shared with you my thought process of examining myself with the question “Am I the type of person people want to be around?” This week, I am going to finish with the last two parts. As I explored these two subjects, I made a promise to be completely honest with myself. So, I encourage you to do the same. In order for you to truly evaluate yourself, remember complete honesty is key.
1. What kind of presence do I leave with people?
Defining someone’s presence is a hard quality to explain. Basically, it involves how you are in regards to socially, self-confidence, and body language. Believe it or not, these three characteristics are hard to fake once you get over that first impression. Let me break these three characteristics down for you to understand better:
- Socially- It’s also about – are you an Extrovert – get your energy from others, or an Introvert – getting your energy from being alone and recharging?
- Are you the type of person who has a hard time talking or being around others? An introvert?
- Or are you someone who can easily start a conversation with anyone around you? An extrovert?
- If you are the second type, chances are socially you are the magnet others are drawn to in a group.
- If you are the first one, the only way you are going to be that magnetic person is to take a risk and get out of your comfort zone. Push through your fear to start a conversation.
The key is to simply BE
YOURSELF – otherwise you are going to appear awkward and the situation may be
more uncomfortable. I find being honest is always best.
- Self-Confidence vs. Arrogance
- There is a huge difference between being arrogant and self-confident.
- An arrogant person knows everything and does not want to hear any other opinion but their own.
- A confident person will take the time not only to listen to other’s but also is curious, open minded, and wants to hear others thought processes and beliefs.
A confident person
attracts others naturally by their self-belief to get any job/task done, being open-minded,
and showing others respect in all areas of life.
- Body Language
- Body language often speaks much louder than verbal words.
- If your arms are crossed, you avoid eye contact, you are constantly moving your foot or fingers, and slouching, you are sending a verbal
message. This type of verbal message is not a good one. All these movements tell someone else that you are not approachable and do not want to be bothered.
- Positive and welcoming body language includes direct eye contact at all times, arms are in a relaxed position, you are engaged in the
conversation, smiling and asking open ended questions.
Sending positive body
language is an open invitation to anyone around you. People will be drawn to approaching you
rather than being scared or shy.
1. Am I honest?
Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to communicating with others. If the people around you know they will always get an honest answer from you, then it’s easier to trust. Not only that, honesty communicates openness automatically. If someone needs advice or has a problem they will come to you because of your honesty. This does not mean you have to reveal every single detail of your life. At the same time, don’t exaggerate or make things up when sharing something with others.
Hopefully, you as a reader have been inspired to examine the type of person you are around other people. Remember, in order to be effective and make an impact on other’s life, you have to be willing to examine yourself and change if needed.