Much debate goes on about what kills dreams these days, and of course there are many things. But, how many of these things can be directly attributed to the person themselves? What I mean is, instead of blaming the world, money, people, competition and everything outside of us, why not look within us first.
I just finished this book, The War of Art, Break Through The Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield. It was given to me at a Dan Kennedy workshop called the 7 Figure Academy. The sole focus of this workshop was on the 7 ways to take your 6 figure business to 7 figures. It was fascinating to me because a lot of this stuff I already knew and was using to help my clients. Yet, it was assembled and explained to me in a way that I really got it on a whole other level too.
There was a lot of discussion and time spent on overcoming resistance. Let’s face it, in order to be a successful entrepreneur and business owner, we have a lot of obstacles we need to face and overcome. The biggest one I think is that huge internal one, you know what I’m talking about, those little voices inside of you that try to stop you from being successful. The ones that say you’re not good enough, or you don’t deserve this, or you’re going to fail, or instilling huge fear in you so much so that it freezes you right in your tracks and stops you from getting what you want and being successful. These same voices that unfortunately have taken some great people from us like Michael Jackson, Marilyn Monroe, John Belushi and others… they suffered from their inner demons and in the end couldn’t over come them. In fact, Oprah just had Whitney Houston on her opening show, wow, talk about demons and resistance. Hers kept her from singing for almost 7 years. Thank goodness she has a wonderful mom, who stepped in so she could find her incredible gift again, get past her demons of resistance and share her voice once more with the world.
I call them my little internal demons. They rear their ugly heads when I least expect it. In Pressfield’s book, he talks a lot about how resistance shows up in your life and gives you some really great concrete ways to handle and push through them. Here’s a great quote: Rule of thumb: The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more resistance we will feel toward pursuing it. Wow, that is so true. And another truth is we’re not alone in our resistance, we all struggle with it. Like when I was sitting down at the computer to write this, I could thing of a million other things I had to do and got up and did a few of them because I was “resistant” to writing this blog!
So my advice to you, is to be aware and pay more attention to yourself. When you don’t want to do something, stop for a second, see if this is resistance calling and keeping you from doing something really great. Make a daily plan where you’re focusing on core actions that will bring in more clients and more money each day. Don’t fill your days with too many activities that will leave you feeling empty and like you have accomplished nothing. Face your internal demons and chip away at them so you can be the success entrepreneur that you came here to be.
One last thing that I have found really helps, join a group of like-minded entrepreneurs that meet on a regular basis. I”m in 2 different mastermind mind groups which were and still are awesome in helping me grow my business. Nothing beats having like-minded entrepreneurs, who are incredibly successful, all working together to help you ensure your success as well. This helps keep you stay on track with your business and make bigger leaps of progress in shorter time frames. Remember isolation is a dream killer, that’s when the resistance demon strikes best.
I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes, “a rising tide floats all boats.” So work on overcoming your resistance and even helping others with this a long the way. We are much stronger together than we are separately. There’s much power within in us. Don’t let your fear and resistance take you away from being the incredible successful entrepreneur that you truly are and came here to be.